Today’s post is a guest post written by Maude Stephany. You can learn more about her, and find out where to find her at the bottom of the post.

Maude StephanyI didn’t use to have an anxiety disorder. But when I was about thirty years old, anxiety kind of snuck up on me. I went through my personal hell that year. I was in a bad relationship and pregnant with my first child. Three months into my pregnancy, my mother was killed by a drunk driver. After my son’s birth, I went through undiagnosed and untreated postpartum depression. My partner tried to help in his own way, but less than six months later, he left.

My anxiety sprang up after my mother’s accident. Everywhere I turned, I could imagine something bad was going to happen to me or to my son. My mind turned against me, and instead of helping me feel safe at home in bed, I became agitated. My head felt like it was filled with angry bees. My heart raced; my breathing grew rapid. Certain situations made me feel like I was either going to throw up or explode.

As a new mom, I had a strong body consciousness. As a nursing mother, I was aware of how everything I ate or drank affected me and also had the potential to impact my child. My body awareness was both my blessing and my curse. I felt hypersensitive to almost everything around me. When people said something to me or about me, my reactions were explosive. I felt everything acutely: joy, sorrow, grief, shame, frustration. Every emotion was magnified. When I became upset, even just a little, I had to learn how to stop myself from making molehills into mountains.

I went for counseling. I joined parenting groups and self-help groups. I learned techniques to help me calm down, to put things into perspective, to step out of myself so that I could just let things be. I learned not to judge myself so harshly. I learned how to reduce my stress, and I learned self-care rituals that helped me manage my anxiety, and to eventually put it in its place.

Because of that body awareness, I was able to backtrack and learn what triggered my anxiety. It was a form of detective work for me, following the trail back to where the anxiety began, then figuring out ways that I could either avoid the trigger, manage the trigger or manage the effects of having had to cope with that trigger. I learned that taking hot baths made my muscles feel heavy and ready for sleep and that it switched the “angry buzzing in my head” off. I learned that the smell of lavender calmed me and helped me sleep.

Most importantly, I learned that I needed to feel heard. The more I told my story, the more connected I felt, the less anxious I felt. I started writing, first for myself, then for publication. Over the years, I’ve been published many times, and I’ve coached many authors to help them share their stories. As a result, they have been able to heal, and to create a better future for themselves and others.

Maude Stephany is an intuitive Ghostwriter and Book Coach. She works with her clients to get their stories out of their head and onto the page, helping them heal the past and create a better future. You can find her at StrongWords Writing Services (which is also on facebook), and at her personal facebook page.

13 Comments

  1. Reba Linker

    I love the wisdom in this share. I feel the same way – finding and telling my story has been a tremendous healing for me as well.

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  2. Linda Ursin

    Yes, there’s a profound wisdom in this

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  3. Anna

    Thank you for sharing this. I am sure writing about our feelings helps us greatly, but sharing it with others help not only us.

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  4. Michelle

    Thank you for sharing your story, Linda. Stories do heal, especially if they’re acknowledged and validated by others. You had an incredibly challenging time…hoping days are better now.

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    • Linda Ursin

      This isn’t my story, it’s Maude’s, but yes

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  5. Deborah Weber

    What a helpful story Linda, and kudos to you for the work you put in navigating your journey with an anxiety disorder. And how wonderful that you now get to teach from the lessons you learned. Here’s to always telling your story and always being heard.

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    • Linda Ursin

      It’s Maude’s story. She deserves every bit of kudos for it though

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  6. Tessa

    That was a great share. I am trying to control my anxieties, but so far even the anxiety meds aren’t helping much. There were a couple of good ideas in this post. Thank you for the share. One thing I do though is share my life and things that work and even other articles. I want to help others with their life problems.

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    • Maude Stephany

      When you’re brave enough to share that you have problems, other people can see that they’re not alone either. Soon, you’ll find that more people than you thought have similar problems – and you will have more support to help you through.
      When you feel really anxious, I hope you are also reaching out to professional agencies to deal with it, rather than just taking the medications!

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      • Tessa

        I have a therapist I see every other week. We have to talk about the anxiety again. It is getting worse

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  7. Fiona

    I love how you listened deeply to the story held in your body, Maude. Our body and being record all our experiences and when we connect deeply with our story we liberate our life energy – and this becomes healing. And then our lives become a healing story as we live them. Thank you for your courage and inspiration.

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  8. Maude Stephany

    Thanks for your kind words, Michelle – things are much better now.

    Reply

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