Are you depending on others? Emotionally, or to get things done around the house, to help you with different things, maybe financially, or maybe for transportation?
I know I’ve been “guilty” of two of those for many years. I’ve been financially dependent on first my parents, at times on the government, and at times my husband.
I got used to being less financially dependent while I was working, but now that I’m not working, I’m back to being partially dependent again, and I’m not liking it. I’ve also been depending on others for transportation; my parents at first, then public transportation, and the lately my husband and friends. Public transportation, where we live now sucks, to put it simply. The reason for this dependence has been that I never did get that driver’s license.
Today that changed because I passed my driving test. Tomorrow I won’t have to walk 4 km to and from daycare. I’m not saying depending on others is all bad, but you shouldn’t hang your happiness or freedom on others. You should have some measure of control of your own life, and as much independence as you can get. It makes a lot of difference for your self-esteem. It also keeps you from being totally helpless, should things change.
So who are you depending on, and for what? Is that ok with you? If not, what are you doing about it?
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