Today, I’m letting you in on one of my big truths:
You shouldn’t sacrifice who you are for other people.
It’s good to be caring and considerate, but it’s possible to take it too far. I really believe that a lot of people, especially younger women, do this. You sacrifice hobbies, interests, and passions. You change the way you dress, the way you speak, the way you act.
You do this because of one or more of these reasons
- You’re trying to manage daily life and feel you don’t have enough time to spend some on yourself
- You think it’s selfish to set aside time for yourself
- Other people (family, spouse, people at school or work) have voice opinions about your interests or personality
- You think people won’t accept you for who you are
- You’re trying to fit in
I’ve seen too many women do this. In truth, I’ve also done it myself. I gave up opinions, behaviors, and style because of my husband’s words. I gave up hobbies and passions because work sapped me of my energy, and I thought I should prioritize that. I edited my language and my reactions at work because you shouldn’t talk back to nasty clients. I kept working for too long because that was what you were “supposed to do“.
I’ve always been a strong person, or so I thought. So none of this was enjoyable. It isn’t fun to have to limit yourself or force yourself into a box that’s too small. After I had my daughter, I started breaking free of other people’s opinions again. I wanted to get my old self back, no matter what it took. I want to be a good role model for her, so she doesn’t have to end up in the same trap. I had spent nearly 20 years in that box, and it was way too small. There’s still one step to take care of, but I hope to have that finished by the end of the year.
I see a lot of women come out of this, coming back to themselves in their late 30’s to early 50’s, and I don’t want it to take that long. I want you to get out of it sooner, and get back to who you are earlier, so you can enjoy life longer.
One of my missions in life is to help you out of this
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